Love yourself first
Loving another person is definitely on the top of my the list of "things that I would live for". There are no words to describe the feeling of spending time with a beautiful, genuine person who cares for you just as much as you care for them. You feel safe, at peace, and the world around you is tuned out by this wonderful being who you sacrifice yourself to.
But then, as life goes about, problems arise and eventually, unfortunately, things end. Either you've had enough, or them, it doesn't really matter. A part of you is lost forever. All those memories created in years passed will stay just that, memories. Your story with that person ends, and you're left feeling depleted and stagnant. Not knowing what to do with your life.
At this point in time it's very, very easy to get in the mindset that your life is doomed and nothing will ever work out for you again. It's because of the empty void that is left from the countless hours and days and months spent with who you thought was the love of your life. But now, at the end of the day, you realize that it's just you. Alone.
The hard truth from these experiences we go through is that yes, we are alone at the end of the day. Loving another person is amazing, but there is nothing more important than the love you give for yourself. You are the most important person. You are your number one priority. What comes before and after you, is you.
Those goals and dreams you had sitting in the closet can see the light again. Those days that were spent alongside that special person instead of the gym, will now be spent at the fucking gym. Sit down and think about who you want to be. When you recognize your potential, set out to achieve it.
Every single day is a struggle regardless of the hardships resulting from the end of a toxic relationship, but guess what: Now, you are free.
Free to work on yourself. Free to achieve those goals. Free to become the person that you want to be.
Once you give love to yourself, just like you did to that special someone, things will slowly start to fall into place. You cannot love another person unless you learn to love yourself first, or else you will lose yourself. Your identity will become apart of theirs. You will try to find meaning through their eyes, when in reality it is you who needs to establish it.
Be consistent. Break the habits that break you down and replace them with what will build you up.
The pain that you are going through is your evolutionary partner. What we do not struggle through we do not learn anyways.
Be the person you want to be. Learn to love yourself.
But then, as life goes about, problems arise and eventually, unfortunately, things end. Either you've had enough, or them, it doesn't really matter. A part of you is lost forever. All those memories created in years passed will stay just that, memories. Your story with that person ends, and you're left feeling depleted and stagnant. Not knowing what to do with your life.
At this point in time it's very, very easy to get in the mindset that your life is doomed and nothing will ever work out for you again. It's because of the empty void that is left from the countless hours and days and months spent with who you thought was the love of your life. But now, at the end of the day, you realize that it's just you. Alone.
The hard truth from these experiences we go through is that yes, we are alone at the end of the day. Loving another person is amazing, but there is nothing more important than the love you give for yourself. You are the most important person. You are your number one priority. What comes before and after you, is you.
Those goals and dreams you had sitting in the closet can see the light again. Those days that were spent alongside that special person instead of the gym, will now be spent at the fucking gym. Sit down and think about who you want to be. When you recognize your potential, set out to achieve it.
Every single day is a struggle regardless of the hardships resulting from the end of a toxic relationship, but guess what: Now, you are free.
Free to work on yourself. Free to achieve those goals. Free to become the person that you want to be.
Once you give love to yourself, just like you did to that special someone, things will slowly start to fall into place. You cannot love another person unless you learn to love yourself first, or else you will lose yourself. Your identity will become apart of theirs. You will try to find meaning through their eyes, when in reality it is you who needs to establish it.
Be consistent. Break the habits that break you down and replace them with what will build you up.
The pain that you are going through is your evolutionary partner. What we do not struggle through we do not learn anyways.
Be the person you want to be. Learn to love yourself.
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